With Mother’s Day coming up, I thought I’d share this question. “Do you know your mother?” Julie asked of me in the following email after reading my book, “Ghosts Talk:”
I am reading your book for about the third time and noticed the first time that you talked a lot of your father but not your mother so much. I know that she left your family at an early age but do you still visit and have a good relationship with her and her family?”
That is something I rarely talk about but to answer your question, yes, I do still talk with my mother although I didn’t for many years. My mother is a friend now and I want the very best for her but I don’t send her Mother’s Day cards either. She isn’t that to me although I call her mother. I don’t remember much about her as a mother figure except for some bad times but I guess those times stand out more in your memory after divorce unless your parents make memories of more enjoyable times.
On a psychic level, I remember her being young and with the desire to experience more of life than what she had with us. I don’t consider that right or wrong but I became the mother figure to my two younger brothers and in all ways, except sex, thank goodness, a wife to my father who didn’t remarry until I was about seventeen.
Right now my mother is dealing with her husband’s eminent demise from pancreatic cancer. I try to be there for her and know she’s having a hard time. I won’t go into more there. Her husband and I have a passing hello, goodbye relationship and I’m sorry that he has to endure this horrific trauma.
As I’ve explained before and will again, life is a spiritual lesson. My life and the people in it are all learning. Do I thank God that I’ve gone through the events in life I have even though they’ve not always been good? You betcha except when I’m in the midst of them. But even then I try to understand I’m living a karmic lesson and get on with making choices I think benefit me and those around me. That’s why I’m here to open my life and teach what spirituality truly is.
Thanks for your question, Julie